Are you a woman looking for help with ADHD?
I offer non-judgmental understanding, support, and coaching to help you feel better about your life and yourself. As many often are the householders, and carrier women at the same time, they tend to have no time to do face to face coaching, hence I use Skype. But, I do indeed coach face to face.
Many women with ADHD live with a painful secret “Shame” Even women with advanced degrees in demanding, high-powered positions feel incredibly overwhelmed once they get home, they get stressed out by all the household details. They feel like they are living a lie – that their accomplishments are simply due to good luck. Even for women who understand how ADHD makes daily life difficult, one minor mistake or overlooked task can send them reeling from humiliation. Like simply forgetting to sign their child’s school-related paper in time” This triggers a barrage of negative, cruel thoughts like “oh no! I’ve done it again. What is wrong with me? I’m such an idiot!”
In childhood, girls are taught that we must keep a tidy home, cook dinner every night, do laundry, entertain, take care of the chores, raise well-behaved children and work full time. For women with ADHD these expectations, however unrealistic and unfair – they can amplify their shame and sink self-esteem. This happens particularly when women become parents because there are so many additional responsibilities. When they can’t keep up, they start feeling guilty. They berate themselves for not being what they perceive as good enough mothers. They worry their kids won’t learn certain skills, such as time management. They regularly compare themselves to other mothers, for whom parenting and other motherhood-related responsibilities seem to come easily.
Women are taught to be a stabilizing force in the family. If she falls apart, then what? So, she continues to live with her painful secrets of feeling inadequate, unintelligent and incapable. Many women with ADHD also have been told that ADHD isn’t a “real” condition. They are told, they just need to work harder, but telling a woman to try harder is like asking someone with a hearing impairment to listen better. So, letting go of shame and feelings of inadequacy is a process that takes time, but with a help by a coach, you could come along way.